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Coach How to Take Feedback

For: Parents, Teachers

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Social-Emotional Learning/Growth Mindset Study Skills & Tools All Ages Strategy

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Flexible Thinking Self-regulation Verbal Reasoning Abstract Reasoning

Coach How to Take Feedback

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
— Albert Einstein

Some students need explicit coaching in how to react to feedback, think about what they can do differently, and try again.

How To Apply It!

  1. A trusted adult is the best person to help a student learn to take feedback constructively. For older students, the best person might be a teacher or adult friend, and not a parent.
  2. Keep the tone positive. No one enjoys being criticized. Start with the positive. Emphasize the goal of improving over time and that mistakes are expected.
  3. Be specific, objective in the constructive feedback. Use specific examples of feedback that was given but not followed.
  4. Discuss the feedback and the response. Did the student understand the feedback? Was it clear? Was it explicit or implicit? Ask open-ended questions, such as, "Why do you think the teacher wrote that comment?" or "Why do you think your friends were upset?"
  5. Listen carefully to the student's explanation of his response to the feedback.
  6. Discuss what went wrong. What could he do differently? Telling a student exactly what to do is unlikely to get them to change. The student needs to believe changing will help.
  7. Write down and discuss potential solutions. Identify comfortable solutions they can be confident they can handle.
  8. Be clear on the next step. What specifically will your student do to fix the situation or try differently next time.
  9. Be sure to follow-up. Discuss what happened. Celebrate a success. Try a new solution if the first one didn't work.

Why It Works (the Science Of Learning)!

For many students, taking direct feedback or picking up on cues that they need to make a change to be more successful does not come naturally. Providing direct coaching and ongoing support for students to learn how to take in feedback and adjust accordingly helps them build independence in this skill over time.